5 Things I Will Never Tolerate From A Partner Again


1. Insults

 Whether it’s saying I looked ugly in a certain outfit or telling me I was a “worthless slut” for wanting sex while we were both naked in his bed, there are plenty of insults from men who were supposed to at least like me if not love me in my past. This is number one on the list for a reason: I’m too good for that nonsense.

2. Flaking On Plans

 One time I made plans to come over to the house of the guy I was seeing, only to have him not answer the phone or my knocks at the door. It was very late at night, I’d spent $20 on a taxi, it was winter, and I had no way of getting into his apartment. Eventually his roommate heard my pounding and let me in to angrily wake up my Sleeping Beauty.

That was a particularly dramatic “flaking on plans” moment, but I don’t stand for men who think it’s OK to make a commitment and then not show or cancel last minute. If you say you’re going to be there; be there. Otherwise, please let me show you to the door.

3. Talking Smack About My Family

 My family is my heart. I have five brothers and one sister and while I’ve been known to throw shade their way in my day, no one else has the right to say bad things about any of them. Now, I’m not saying that my partner has to pretend like he loves all of my big, loud, crazy family all of the time — that would be asking a lot. But directly insulting them? Trying to undermine my love for them? That’s what my abusive boyfriend in college did and I know now that it’s never OK.

4. Refusing To DTR

If it looks like a boyfriend, walks like a boyfriend, f*cks like a boyfriend? I’m gonna call it a boyfriend. No more in between, wishy-washy relationships for me, thanks. Like obviously there’s a period in the beginning of every relationship where you’re getting to know each other and trying to decide if you want to make a more serious commitment but I know now how long of a period is acceptable to me. (Looking at you, dude who wouldn’t admit he was my boyfriend after six months of spending at least three nights a week together…)

5. Thinking Beauty Is Worth It

 I was not the first person to put up with way too much sh*t from someone because they were incredibly gorgeous and I will not be the last. We tend to think poor treatment is the price we have to pay for serious beauty and that leads to a whooooole lot of nonsense. Never again, my friends! There are plenty of other pretty faces and bodies out there for you ogle over. Don’t let the permission to touch some be an excuse for poor behavior and disrespect.

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