Relationships are one of the greatest mysteries of our times, no?
People often tend to shy away from them, as they feel afraid or even shamed for getting into one “too young.”
Relationships and love can never be equated. Love knows no age, relationships, though, require a certain degree of mental, physical, social and sexual stability.
For the modern woman, it’s always especially challenging. She’s judged for everything she does and desires in life, and yet society keeps on having ungrounded expectations from her.
If there is a respite in the form of love, the baggage of the relationship ruins the experience for women.
Is there anything women could try? Well, here are seven relationships secrets:
1. Keep the secrets you two share safe
We all have plenty to chitchat about on a daily basis. What separates our partner from the rest are the secrets we share with them. They’re like bonds we share.
If you let those secrets loose in front of others, doesn’t this speak volumes about your priorities?
2. Do not lose your temper
This is one of the greatest relationship ruining things: anger. If you’re in love, there can be no place for anger, as you’d by default not do something which angers the other person.
And look, he’ll lose his temper; he’s bound too. And one day you might snap. But until you reach that point of no return, try harder than before to keep things cool and collected.
That’s one of the hallmarks of not only a healthy relationship but also one of the benchmarks of being a wise human being.
3. Don’t keep your wit hidden
People learn by example, don’t they? If you are witty, you will soon be surrounded by smarter people and with a more intelligent company, comes better conversations and more productive lives.
Productive lives always foreground healthy and functional relationships. Unless there is a sharing of knowledge, the relationship is bound to fail badly.
4. Be honest
But not brutally. Don’t break somebody’s self-confidence so much that they’re scarred beyond repair. Indulge in constructive criticism instead. Give and receive feedback from your partner with a smile on your face. A relationship is neither a competition nor is it a transaction. Sometimes, you g0, sometimes you take 80. That is how it works.
Don’t be indifferent. Being emotionally unavailable is one of the most significant red flags. If you can’t be there for them, what is the use of sharing a romantic bond? Yes, it is a trend to be calm and indifferent, but what is worth more: a loving relationship or a series of flings which leave you hating yourself and with a bad taste in your mouth?
6. Indulge in humor
Once in a while at least. Humour is one of the biggest things that turn people on. That’s because it breaks the walls people construct around themselves and exposes their sweeter vulnerable selves a little.
Therefore, try harder to laugh at his silly jokes and crack some yourself.
Show some. It’s the most important thing. Groveling and emotional dependency to the extent of being obsessed with your boyfriend is absolutely revolting, and it’s a slow form of social suicide.
Source : thinkinghumanity.com